5 body language no-nos that could lose you clients

by REP24 Jun 2015
Body expert Alan Pease, co-author of The Definitive Book of Body Language, has revealed the signals you may be sending without even realizing it, and how to change them.
1. Crossing your body
“Most people, when they’re giving bad news, have a tendency to cross their arms on their chest or hold hands with themselves in front of their body or clench their fingers together,” said Pease.
“These are all self-protection signals. Somebody who sees you do that, particularly females, will think that you’re not feeling very confident about what you’re saying.”
2. Signals that imply superiority
“The worst thing a man can do is sit back in his chair with his hands behind his head. It’s called the catapult – it looks like you’re about to fire your head at someone,” said Pease.
“That’s a superiority position used almost entirely by men. It’s the most intimidating management pose that a male can take in the presence of a female subordinate.”
He suggested leaning forward to make people feel relaxed: “We lean forward towards people we like, admire and sympathize with.”
3. Too much eye contact
If the person you’re talking to is having difficulty maintaining eye contact, and if you maintain eye contact, it gives the impression that you’re trying to stare them out or being critical or judgmental, Pease explained.
4. Hiding your hands
Don’t have your hands in your pockets or under the desk. Have them visible, and talk with them facing upwards.
“Monkeys and chimps do this too. It’s the most non-threatening position a human or primate can take because it shows you’re not concealing things in your hands or under your arms,” said Pease.
“We’ve done quite a bit of testing with people presenting to audiences with a palm-up position, the second audience where they’re talking mainly with the palm down, and the third audience where they use a finger point.
“The palm-up users get up to 40% more retention of what they said and are described by the audience in much more favorable terms than the palm-downers. The finger pointers get the worst results. If you talk with your palms down, you’re seen as authority, management, maybe telling them what to do or telling them off. It’s very powerful when you’re in a situation where you’re delivering bad news such as redundancies.”
5. A poor handshake
Getting the handshake wrong can create a bad first impression. Pease offers his tips for getting it right.
“To create a rapport where people feel accepted, you keep your palm vertical,” he said. “The origin of the handshake is arm wrestling back in the Roman era, and the guy with the hand on top had the upper hand. Keep your palm straight and exude the same pressure you receive, and people will feel like you’re accepting them and not trying to dominate or threaten them.”
This is a slightly amended version of an article written by Alan Pease, co-author of The Definitive Book of Body Language. It has been shortened to make it suitable for web publishing.



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